What's in a type...

I do not believe that people have certain types, what I do believe however, is that people are naturally attracted to certain characteristics they see in other people. There may be qualities that people look for in a person that they deem necessary for them to be compatible such as, loyalty, trustworthiness, compassion, etc. As for the specific type of a person, I believe that that varies. Just because I like tall guys with lots of muscles and a good sense of humor, does not mean that that is the only “type” of guy that I will date or even the type of guy that I will marry. I do believe that some people have strict requirements for the person that they will date, a check list you could call it, of what exactly they are looking for in someone else. These people however, are going to be hard-pressed to find someone who is an exact match to that list and who lives up to their expectations. I think that these qualifications come from a variety of different things in peoples’ lives. The way you were raised could be a factor, the friends that you have, the lifestyle you live, the people you have dated in the past. There are so many things that could cause you to want to be with someone who has certain characteristics or cause you not to want to be with them. For instance, if you dated someone who liked to hit you and make you cry then realized that you are better than that and do not deserve that kinds of treatment (and no one does) then in your next relationship is someone tried to treat you that way you would not put up with it. Same goes when you are with someone who treats you amazing, if they are good to you but it does not work out, in your next relationship you will want someone who is good to you as well. I think that part of needing someone to be a certain way, a certain “type”, partially comes from your own insecurities. What these kinds of people do not realize though, is that when you have so many expectations you often get let down. Nobody is perfect and it is not anyone else’s job to try to make them either. The way that I have found works the best, but I am not expert and in no way know everything about relationships and what makes them work, is to be open-minded and accepting of who someone is and if after getting to know that someone, you do not like the person that they are then that is that. If you feel the need to try to change them then that is not the person for you. There are always going to be things in a relationship or a person that you do not care for one hundred percent but nobody is perfect and if that persons flaws are too much to deal with then you are better off finding someone else.